學(xué)會在現(xiàn)實中生活(Learn to Live in the Present Moment)
學(xué)會在現(xiàn)實中生活(Learn to Live in the Present Moment) To a large degree, the measure of our peace of mind is determined by how much we are able to live in the present moment. Irrespective of what happened yesterday or last year, and what may or may not happen tomorrow, the present moment is where you are -- always! Without question, many of us have mastered the neurotic art of our lives worrying about a variety of things -- all at once. We allow past problems and future concerns to dominate our present moments, so much that we end up anxious,frustrated, depressed, and hopeless. On the flip side, we also postpone our gratification, our stated priorities, and our happiness, often convincing ourselves future will be better than today. Unfortunately, the same mental dynamics that tell us to look toward the future will only repeat themselves so that"someday "never actually arrives. John Lennon once said,"Life is what~ s happening while we＇re busy making other plans. "When we＇ re busy making "other plans", our children are busy growing up, the people we love are moving away and dying, our bodies are getting out of shape, and our dreams are slipping away. In short, we miss out on life. Many people live as if life were a dress rehearsal for some later date. It isn＇t. In fact, no one has a guarantee that he or she will be here tomorrow. Now is the only time we have, and the only time that we have any control over. When our attention is in the present moment, we push fear from our minds. Fear is the concern over events that might happen in the future -- we won＇t have enough money, our children will get into trouble, we will get old and die, whatever.學(xué)會在現(xiàn)實中生活 在很大程度上，我們內(nèi)心的平和取決于我們在多大程度上享受眼前的生活。不管昨天或去年發(fā)生了什么，也不管明天將會發(fā)生什么或不會發(fā)生什么，現(xiàn)實才是你所在之處——生活就是這樣。 毫無疑問，在我們的生活中，許多人總是這樣的神經(jīng)兮兮，他們擔(dān)心各種各樣的事情，而且會突然之間擔(dān)心許多事情。我們讓過去與未來的問題支配我們現(xiàn)有的時間，以致于整日焦躁不安、委靡不振、精神沮喪甚至感到絕望。另一方面，我們又永遠(yuǎn)不讓自己滿足、享有優(yōu)先權(quán)和幸福感，而且還經(jīng)常說服自己將來會比今天好。不幸的是，同樣的告訴我們?nèi)フ雇磥淼木駝恿�，它只是不斷重�?fù)自己，以致于“某一天”永遠(yuǎn)不能到來。約翰·列儂曾說：“生活就是我們忙于制訂其他計劃時所發(fā)生的事。”當(dāng)我們忙于制訂“其他計劃”時，我們的孩子忙于成長，我們所愛之人遠(yuǎn)離、并撒手塵寰，我們體型走樣了，我們的夢想消失了。總之，我們錯過了人生的大好光陰。 許多人活著，他們的生活就像未來日子的一次時裝彩排。然而，并非如此。事實上，沒有人能確保他或她明天還在。現(xiàn)在是我們擁有的惟一時間，是惟一能夠把握的時間。當(dāng)我們的注意力集中于現(xiàn)在時，我們便能消除恐懼。 恐懼是我們對未來事情的擔(dān)心，比如我們沒有足夠的錢，我們的孩子會惹上麻煩，我們會變老，會離開人世，如此等等，不勝枚舉。