成立業(yè)還是先成家?

　　Career or Family?

　　I used to be radical and thought one could not be a success in career and, at the same time, have a happy family life. Sometimes I even subscounscinusly refused such things as love and marriage.

　　Now I think man engages in a career in the hope of having a happy life, except for these "extremely intelligent", who would choose career to the exclusion of family. In fact, their lives are not complete ones they have defects. Most people, including many great men, scientists and merchants, have experienced much the same experiences (of course, with the details varying). They are from birth to carefree childhood to troublesome adolescence, to dating, to work, to love, to marriage, to success in career, then to old age.

　　Read while you read. Love while you love. Whatever you do, do it whole-heartedly. Even if one day I become a housewifp, that is nothing to be afraid of. What is important is that, in my heart, I have a deep love for life. I will keep in high spirits. I love. I marry. But I still dream my own dream. I will follow the law of nature and pursuit what is beautiful in life. I will hring myself into full play. Only by so doing, I will not regret anything in life. Do you think so?

　　事業(yè)還是家庭?

　　我從前很偏激，以為家庭和事業(yè)不可兩全，有時(shí)甚至下意識(shí)地去拒絕戀愛、婚姻之類的事。

　　現(xiàn)在我認(rèn)為，除了那些只要事業(yè)不要家庭的“極端聰明”的人，人干事業(yè)總是為了有幸福生活。絕大多數(shù)人-- 包括許多偉人，科學(xué)家、大商人——都有一種大體相同的過程(當(dāng)然，其具體的細(xì)節(jié)是千變?nèi)f化的)：即從出生。到無憂無慮的童年，到充滿煩惱的青少年時(shí)期，到讀書、工作、戀愛、結(jié)婚、事業(yè)成功，到老年。

　　讀書時(shí)好好讀書，戀愛時(shí)好好戀愛，該做什么就好好做什么，甚至有一天做家庭婦女也沒有什么好害怕的。重要的是自己心中始終有一種對(duì)生活的熱愛，始終保持積極上進(jìn)的精神。我戀愛結(jié)婚，但我仍然可以追求自己的夢(mèng)想，遵循自然規(guī)律，追求生活中美好的東西，充分發(fā)揮自己的力量，那樣，才會(huì)使一生無怨無悔。你說呢?