2017關(guān)于愛的演講稿(3篇)

　　我是一名普通的小學(xué)教師，1990年7月帶著對未來美好的信心追求，我走上了初為人師的道路，望著孩子們天真無邪的眼睛，望著孩子們幼稚可愛的笑臉，我體會到他們的純潔質(zhì)樸，也就從那時起，我就樹立了一個信念：在教育事業(yè)百花園里默默耕耘，無私奉獻，以一片綠葉的精神，托起花的甜美，果的珍貴，以一片真誠的愛心托起明天的太陽。十三年來我依法執(zhí)教，愛崗敬業(yè)，盡職盡責(zé)，關(guān)心愛護每一個學(xué)生。多年的教學(xué)經(jīng)歷使我深深體會到：教育當(dāng)中充滿了愛，有愛的教育才是成功的教育。

　　記得那是一個新學(xué)期星期一的早上，我和往常一樣走進教室開晨會，“砰砰”一陣敲門聲，打斷了我的講話，我聞聲快步走出教室，在走廊里站著一位男學(xué)生和一位中年男子。我上下打量了幾眼，習(xí)慣地說：“剛轉(zhuǎn)來的學(xué)生吧。”我還沒說完，那好象是家長的男子低聲說：“不，是留級的。我想讓他再學(xué)好點�！蔽乙宦犑橇艏壍亩�話沒說就跑道到教導(dǎo)處找李主任，李主任說明了原因，我知道了這個學(xué)生叫耿舜。他思想品德極差，學(xué)習(xí)成績往往是倒數(shù);因打架斗毆，小偷小摸，時常家長告到學(xué)校，也因?qū)医滩桓模�常常受到老師的譴責(zé)和批評，同學(xué)們更是不喜歡他，因此，他連降兩級從五年級留到我班，(他的年齡不大)，當(dāng)我了解到他的情況后就會到教室，說實話真不想要他，但是校長的批條我不能不接受，再一個是他的父親含著眼淚懇求我：“李老師，幫幫忙，讓孩子留級是叫他重新開始，我們當(dāng)家長的這會一定管好他，給孩子一個改過的機會吧�！彼�的父親說了很多，從他的眼神中不難看出是在求我，我為難了，這時我看見耿舜背著一個嶄新的書包，耷拉著頭，非常尷尬地在擺弄著自己那雙稚嫩的小手，低聲說了一句話“老師，我……我要改好，”說完便哭了。當(dāng)時我被他們父子感動了，就把耿舜領(lǐng)進了教室。說實話，凡是當(dāng)過班主任的都知道，寧教十個好生，也不教一個差生，因為管理不當(dāng)，會帶壞一部分學(xué)生。但現(xiàn)在既然遇上了又有什么辦法。只愿自己倒霉，思想上有很大的波動。但想想教師的職責(zé)，班主任的重任，自己的追求，我決心啃這塊硬骨頭，我想辦法去改變他，有了這種思想做指導(dǎo)，我便開始了一系列的工作。

　　首先用愛心滋潤學(xué)生的心田，喚起上進心。因耿舜的不良習(xí)慣經(jīng)常受到老師的批評，所以他對老師持有仇視態(tài)度，要想轉(zhuǎn)變他，就得給他做思想工作，按一般規(guī)律，一個人更換一個新的環(huán)境，開始都想好好表現(xiàn)自我、我抓住時機，用滾燙的愛心去融化他，更何況他有改過的兆頭，于是我便多找機會同他接觸，同他拉家常，得知他父母經(jīng)商賣自行車，工作非常辛苦。有時他還幫助父母作家務(wù)，得知此情況;我就在班上表揚他，說他愛勞動，以次喚起他的上進心，這樣逐漸地縮短了我和他之間的距離。其次是發(fā)現(xiàn)閃光點喚起了學(xué)習(xí)欲。一年一度的春季運動會在我校又拉開了帳幕，我發(fā)現(xiàn)他的體質(zhì)非常好，我對著學(xué)生說：“同學(xué)們，我們班有一個體育健將，他就是耿舜，如果不相信咱們這次運動會就叫他參加，好嗎?”學(xué)生們都一致贊同�！澳愀胁桓袇⒓颖荣愖C明自己的實力呢?”以他那不忍輸?shù)男愿褚欢〞�答�?yīng)的。果然在我的說服下，他報了跳高和扔實心球兩項，在比賽中出乎我和同學(xué)們的意料，他竟得了兩個第一，當(dāng)他拿著獎狀跑到我的跟前時，他那高興的樣子簡直無法形容，但我看的出此時的他嘗到了成功的喜悅�；氐浇淌�，我在班上鄭重其事地表揚了他，同學(xué)們也向他投去了贊許的目光，這時他真正體驗到了集體對他的信任。為了鼓勵他，我把自己的一些學(xué)習(xí)用品，如筆、日記本送給了他，希望他在學(xué)習(xí)上也像在運動場上那樣努力拼搏，爭取取得好成績。從那以后他真地變了，學(xué)習(xí)刻苦了，作業(yè)認真了，學(xué)習(xí)有了很大的進步，現(xiàn)在他的學(xué)習(xí)成績在班里中等以上。由于我始終用一顆熾熱的心關(guān)心、愛護他，又經(jīng)常表揚，鼓勵他，同時，他的思想行為有了極大的轉(zhuǎn)變，他能幫助同學(xué)們值日了，也愿意把自己的學(xué)習(xí)用品借給別人了，他還拿自己的零花錢幫助我班的特困生齊苗苗……一次偶然的機會，我發(fā)現(xiàn)他聰明伶俐，有一定的組織能力.我選他為值日班長，真是“沙里淘金”，我發(fā)現(xiàn)了人才，他把我們原先紀(jì)律松弛的班集體管理得井井有條，他成了我的得力助手。家長對孩子的進步非常高興，感激地對我說：“李老師，太謝謝你了，你不愧是一位好老師。”是啊，想想過去的耿舜、看看現(xiàn)在的他，我心里有一種說不出的愉快和欣慰。今學(xué)期我不教耿舜了，他送給我一個日記本，并在本中寫到：老師，我愛您!從這幾個中，我知道了自己的愛之所在，這幾一直激勵我，使我充滿力量，使我暗下決心，決不讓一個孩子掉隊，我要用愛去澆灌每一個幼小的心靈。

　　是的，情感教育是教育的核心，教師只有真正地思學(xué)生之所思，想學(xué)生之所想，縮短了師生距離，增進了師生溝通，才能觸動孩子的心靈，提高教育的質(zhì)量，從而培養(yǎng)出有個性，有發(fā)展，有創(chuàng)新的學(xué)生。

　　情Love

　　ever since the dawning of the history of mankind, there have been myriads of diversifed inventions, discoveries, and even explorations of the mysteries of the universe. in fact, the human beings are so intelligent that we have solved almost all kinds of problems we have confronted with .

　　however, nobody has ever made out what the word “l(fā)ove” really connotes, not even the most famous people such as great politicians, saints and philosophers can clarify the meaning of “l(fā)ove”, neither can they deal with the various affairs concerning love. love is like a huge boundless net that shrouds us all in. we can neither break away from it nor escape from it. like it or not, we are always entangled in it. it is an invisible net without any form, that shrouds in different people from different angels; it is a merciless net that upsets us or even tortures us to death. it is also a supreme net which almost no human can surpass. even if they are heroes, emperors, wise men or saints, they can do nothing but show their helplessness in its face. those who can breathe through the holes of the net should be regarded beyond commonness and vulgarity. love can bring us temporary comfort and happiness, but mostly they bring about annoyance and sufferings. maybe this is the reason why many people have seen through the illusions of the mortal world. however it is not so easy to break away from this boundless, ever-existing and indifferent net of love.

　　love is varied and changeable, but roughly it can be divided into three categories: family love, fraternal love and amatory love. not like monkey king who jumped out of the rocks, we were all born after mother's pregnancy of about nine months, hence we have countless relatives without any choice: parents, grand-parents, and grand-parents-in-law, uncles and aunties, brothers and sisters, etc. and once looking at the genealogical tree, we'll see no end. family love is what everyone longs for, but the warmth and support from our beloved ones are what everyone yearns for the most. but how many of us are determined to contribute to our beloved one? and how many don't expect repayment and relaxed. conscience even if they have the desire and preparation to contribute to their beloved. the distance between relatives is different and so are their expectations. but since it's very difficult to know how much we should expect, a lot of worries and distresses emerge.

　　parents always expect their children to show their filial obedience, or at least pay them frequent visits after they have got married. if the children fail to do this, they feel hurt and upset, and they'll even complain about their children, because they just can't understand why their children don't care about them after what they have done for the children for so many years to bring them up. nevertheless, one's experience determines his ideology. young children are naturally attached to their parents, but when they grow up, specially when they have made their own friends, and got married, what they need most is independence and freedom, and parents sometimes might become their burden. once there is generation gap, it becomes more difficult to communicate and this keeps them away from their parents. objectively speaking, they need more independence in order to achieve success. in the present society, what the children want to have most is the economic support from their parents, not their moral support or guidance. they would complain if your economic support is not up to their expectations. the love from uncles and aunties would naturally dwindle after they have had their own children. only the love from grand-parents and grand parents-in-law is pure and demands no repayment, and they are also too old to wait for any repayment. as for the distant relatives, their love depends on their needs, just as the old saying goes “the poor have no friends even if they live in downtown while the rich have distant relatives even if they live in deep mountains”. granny liu, a distant kinsfolk, in a dream of the red mansions , claims kinship with the wealthy jia family, thinking that she may benefit from it in some ways. liu might have run away without any traces if the jia family had been a poor one. another saying goes “close neighbors are better than distant relatives.” the most difficult is to manage the relatives when doing business together, just as what the tv series program liu laogen discloses. it is all right to stay poor together, but as soon as the business grows prosperous, the group will become estranged and even dissolve because of the unfair distribution. family love is like a maze which we shouldn't go too far into it, otherwise, we'll surely get lost. love is a bilateral matter and unilateral love can only lead you to nowhere in spite of your good intentions. family love is, sometimes, like an arranged marriage, leaving no choices to you. due to the different experiences and tastes, staying togeth

　　er temporarily can be entertaining, while living together for a long time can only be boring due to the lack of common interest and understanding. how can we communicate with each other without understanding? parents have the duty to support the children who are not yet economically independent, and children have the responsibility to provide for the elderly parents who are lack of economic abilities to support themselves. except these two kinds of duties which we must fulfill, other kinds of love become conventional formalities such as paying visit to the sick or the dead and giving presents to the newly-born etc..

　　no love among relatives has become a normal phenomenon which needn't to be fussed about. what's worse is when love is contaminated by money. sooner or later we will get hurt. the sooner we get out of this net of love, the more we can preserve beautiful memories.

　　we are not living in vacuum, and the society is formed of various kinds of people. as long as we want to live, study, or work, we have to contact, communicate and cooperate with others. those who enjoy common interests, mutual understanding, common undertakings and common benefits become friends.

　　some friends are called fair-weather friends, because they are together just for entertaining themselves by eating, drinking, and gossiping. once there's nothing to eat and drink, their friendship is finished. some are spiritual friends who share common ambitions, pursuits and education. “they enjoy talking and laughing with the great talents and never make friends with the good-for-nothings”. the best examples would be yu boya and zhong ziqi of the ancient times who are famous not only for their lofty music but mainly for their lofty characters and mutual understanding and appreciation. they cared very little about material wealth, so their friendship is known as “gentlemen's friendship as pure as water”. the third type of friendship belong to those who show their utter devotion to each other. they are ready not only to share weal and woe but also to die for each other, like the three brothers liu, guan and zhang in the novel romance of the three kingdoms. . we all wish to have this kind of friendship, but it's of great difficulty for the ordinary people to be as devoted as they were.

　　fraternal love or friendship is wide-ranged and flexible. generally speaking, everyone is our friend, just as chairman mao says “our friends are all over the world”. but transcend age, sex, nationality, state and economic conditions. to them the most important is common benefit, common interest and understanding. friendship is formed during the course of studying, working and fighting. the battle companions who have survived many hazards usually enjoy long-lasting friendship.

　　however, fraternal love is not stable. being away for too a long time, losing all common benefits, friends will become estranged. once their interest has changed, they no longer understand each other, and even this would harm friendship. at all times and in all countries, many close friends and battle companions who once worked together and fought together became enemies in the end. quiet a few of the emperors in ancient china even killed those who had helped them found their dynasties. the taiping heavenly kingdom would not have failed if it hadn't been for the contending and massacring among the those who first rose in rebellion at the beginning of the uprising. what else we need to pay attention to is that some friends, after being away from each other for too long a time, have lost so much of their original characters that when meeting again, you will feel that you are still the same as you were, while they are no longer themselves. they may have the same feeling about you, so sometimes it's better not to meet each other again. as the chinese proverb goes “friendship can not last for three years and flowers can not stay in blossom for three months”. it's not so easy to maintain real friendship which needs mutual understanding, tolerance and sacrifice. any kinds of harsh treatment will damage friendship.

　　amatory love has been a mystery for ages. there's neither a criterion to judge nor a common rule to follow. nobody can tell the exact reasons why love emerges. it is not always because of beauty (the ugly doorkeeper quasimodo in the hunchback of notre dame is loved by the beautiful gypsy girl esmeralda), nor kindness (hitler also has his mistress), nor wisdom ( even the blockhead may sometimes marry a beautiful girl), nor strength (some love starts from sympathy). true love is like getting an electric shock, shaking our soul. it is a sweet dream, a kind of intoxication, indulgence, and endless passion.

　　true love doesn't need a long time to grow up, to make clear the family tree of the other, neither does it needs the time to look ahead and behind again and again. love is not marriage, which usually starts from love, but

　　doesn't always depend on love to maintain. long-lasting marriage can eventually turn into a kind of family love, a kind of companionship which preserves the companion but loses the passion. love is often an wink of the eye, or a smile that hints mutual understanding. in spite of the great distance between them, people may fall in love incidentally. hence the saying “a distant marriage is tied up with a mysterious thread”. love needs passion, and it can stand bumps and stumbles, ups and downs, complaints and blames. when it turns into a pool of water, especially dead water, without any billows or waves, it's time for it to die.

　　delicacies are tasty, but eating everyday can still make one lose appetite. happiness is what everyone longs for, but too much happiness can spoil people who may not care about the happiness they already have. it's universal to live in happiness without knowing it. the same is true with love. very few people can love the same person passionately all their lives. all love stories come to an end no matter how beautiful they are, which also demonstrate the changeability of love. what one has been chasing wildly may turn into something one wants to get rid of desperately in the end. besides, love is usually blind, especially those who fall in love at the first sight. at the very beginning, both try to demonstrate their beautiful side and cover up their weakness. fooled by the mysterious color of love, one often mistakes the weaknesses as merits. however, as time passes by, frequent contacts make one bored, and even merits become defects, and then the end of love is coming. what's more, there are the capricious men and women who never take love seriously, leaving the devoted ones suffering alone. the saying that the devoted is always abandoned by the heartless has almost become the truth of love affairs. what we can't neglect is that love may turn into hatred, and lovers may also become enemies. the best proof is the numerous divorces.

　　even though true love is hard to find nowadays, we still can see some true and infatuated boys and girls who readily give up their families, their parents, their studies, their careers and even their lives for love. they love so passionately, crazily and wildly that they hate anyone who is against their love, and may even harm or kill him if he insists on his objection.

　　love has magical power that can exploit people's potential abilities, bring people's positive factors into full play, and provide people with the courage to face trials and hardships, to go through life and death, and even to risk universal condemnation. even in the ancient feudal society, some people were courageous enough to carry on clandestine love affairs. the examples in point were the courageous ones who dared to love the concubines of the emperors or the children of their foes. love also has miraculous power which can startle the universe and move the gods by attracting the heavenly celestials coming down to earth ( the love story of the cowboy and the weaving girl ), and by turning ghosts into human ( strange tales of liao-zhai ). love can transcend age and generation (dr. sun yat-sen and madam song qingling; luxun and xu guangping). love can show contempt for all conventions and prejudices; love can heal wounds and cure diseases, and love can readjust people's state of mind. of course, the result would be the opposite once it hurts.

　　great men yearn for true love even more than ordinary people. since the ancient times, so many heroes couldn't help falling into the trap of love that the sex-trap has been regarded as one of the 36 stratagems in military tactics. fuchai, the king of the wu state, couldn't be spared of this trap, and generals dongzhuo and lubu fell deeply into it while xiangyu, the king of the western chu state , bid farewell to his beloved concubine in tears. people may have to pay very high price, even their illustrious name for the love they long for even though it may last for only a very short time. nonetheless no one can tear himself away from love. people often say that their earthly affinity is not yet finished, but in fact it is the love affinity that is the most difficult to finish.

　　love is shapeless and priceless. we can blame nobody when captured by it. love can not be forced, nor can it be pretended. sympathy is not love, neither is gratitude. love must be generated from the heart, and expressed in actions. it can not be called love without passions and a deep longing from the bottom of the heart. there's no impassable gulf between family love and fraternal love. some family love may turn into friendship. at the same time, natural barriers doesn't exist either between fraternal love and amatory love. some friendship may develop into amatory love. the same is true with amatory love which may change into family love after a long time of mutual grinding and polishing.the closer the relationship, and the higher t

　　he expectations are, the more difficult it is to get along with each other. family love, fraternal love and amatory love are three main human feelings. if handled well, they can bring us extreme happiness, while handled improperly, will bring us great sufferings.

　　the present society is a world of dazzling money and dwindling human feeling contacts. most people hold a snobbish attitude. they only make friends with people of wealth and of high social status. just as zhen shiyen said in his expounding of the song “all good things must end” in a dream of the red mansions “while men with gold and silver by the chest, turn beggars scorned by all and dispossessed”. frankly speaking, however, if we regard money the first thing in whichever one of the three kinds of loves, it will depreciate and even become worthless.

　　love can not pretend, nor can it tolerate too much selfish motives. it is reported that an old man in jiangsu province left his million yuan heritage to his young housekeeper instead of his own children, because his own children didn't take care of him while the young housekeeper accompanied him through his last lonely and helpless years.

　　love is easily perceivable and perceptible. flattery words may be cheatable, but true love and false feelings can easily be distinguished. if the people you love only know how to spend your money, you should be careful of them. everyone can help you spend your money if you give them the chance. never turn your love into the slave of money.

　　love should be selfless, and feelings should be sincere. we shouldn't judge our feelings according to the distance of the relationship. everyone treasures love and nobody can fool himself or the others. a chinese saying goes: real heroes yearn even more for true love, and great men cherish tender love for their children.

　　we are the saint on earth, and should treasure our love, but we should know how much is good and where to stop. since there's no ever-lasting banquet, nor is there an endless love story, we should take the gains and losses of love with perfect composure. there's fragrant grass in every corner of the earth, and you can always find your love in this world.

　　在烏克蘭的校園里長了一枝很大的玫瑰，同學(xué)們每天都來開心的欣賞。驚艷于這美麗而又碩大的玫瑰。誰都不舍得去摘，小心呵護著

　　一天早晨，校長蘇霍姆林斯基在校園里散步。突然，她看見一個小女孩正在越過花圃的圍欄盡力去摘那朵令人吃驚的玫瑰花。這時，蘇霍姆林斯基立即叫住了小女孩，小女孩臉上露出驚恐的面色。這位校長看到小女孩的樣子以后，不不僅沒有嚴(yán)厲的呵斥，反而彎下腰，和顏悅色的問這個小女孩：“孩子，這么美麗的花朵，你一摘下來就會很快的枯萎的，你喜歡美麗的東西，就要懂得去好好的保護，更不能讓我們喜歡的東西受到一點傷害�！�

　　“校長大人，：我把這里有特大的玫瑰花的事情告訴了病重的奶奶，但奶奶就是不相信，所以我急得沒有辦法，想摘下來送給她看。不過你放心，奶奶看過以后我一定把花送回來，還有許多大哥哥和大姐姐們要看的!”

　　小女孩的一番回答大大出乎校長的意料之外，這個天真無邪的女孩子為了給病中的奶奶一個希望，不惜去“借”這玫瑰，他的內(nèi)心深深的顫動了，他不僅沒有批評這個小女孩，馬上又摘了兩朵大玫瑰花，對孩子說：“這一朵是獎勵你的，你是一個懂得愛的孩子;這一朵是送給你媽媽的，感謝她養(yǎng)育了你這樣的孩子。這三朵花都不要你還了，我代表學(xué)校獎勵給你�！�

　　小女孩高興的捧著這三朵花，激動的連跳了幾下。

　　“這下我奶奶高興了!我可以把花一直放在她的床邊了!”這聲音一直飄蕩在這位校長的耳鼓中……

　　這個真實的故事結(jié)局似乎出于意料之外，又合乎情理之中。是小女孩的天真成就了一個非常智慧的校長，還是一個校長成就了一個小女孩天真美麗的夢。是一個永遠無法考證的話題。但有一點是那樣的清晰。是“愛”鋪就了花徑，是愛彌漫了校園。

　　愛是橋梁，架起了師生情感溝通的綠色通道;愛是明燈，燭照了人生百態(tài)世相，蕩滌橫流物欲肆虐的心靈;愛是一部白庫全書，詮釋教師職業(yè)生涯的光輝。

　　讓我們從遙遠的烏克蘭愛的回憶中回到身邊的現(xiàn)實。作為一名非常年輕的教師，最近一直沉浸在李吉林老師幾十年如一日筆耕不輟，潛心研究、獻身教育的光輝事跡中，心靈除了震顫以外。覺得他的整個教育生涯中始終貫穿著一根紅線。這就是愛。愛教育，愛同事，愛學(xué)生。師德有固定的標(biāo)準(zhǔn)，有詳細的條框，但愛卻無欲無私無利。正應(yīng)驗了中國的古話：“大愛無疆：大愛無言�！�

　　我深深的體會到教師愛的哲學(xué)就是把整個心靈獻身所從事的職業(yè)中去。教學(xué)是職業(yè)，是我們謀生的手段，但教學(xué)又不是職業(yè)，是教會人用愛去感恩父母，感恩學(xué)校，感恩社會、感恩祖國。

　　有人把教師比作是春蠶，吐絲結(jié)繭。春蠶到死絲方盡是教師形象的寫照;有人把教師比作蜜蜂，為人類釀造甜蜜，采得百花成甘澧。但我卻要說。教師既不是春蠶也不是蜜蜂。因為春蠶吐絲和蜜蜂釀蜜純屬昆蟲的生理現(xiàn)象。而教師這個行當(dāng)是愛的宣傳者，愛的播撒者。他來自教育者本身心靈深處的社會責(zé)任感。始終要用一顆博愛之心傳道授業(yè)解惑。

　　我認為只有明白了我們的個人行為不僅僅是生存的需要，而是感知學(xué)生的需要，社會的需要。明確了這份良知賦予我們的神圣使命感才能在自己的崗位上敬業(yè)樂業(yè)，愛崗愛生。我們才不會埋怨學(xué)生的無知和不懂事，因為他們無知不懂事，通過你的歷練他們走向成熟走向成功。唯有這樣你才會真正體驗到“待到山花爛漫時，你在叢中笑”的幸福感。

　　愛無形，但愛心鑄就的燈塔會指引我們?nèi)松�前行的方�?愛無重，但當(dāng)我們被周圍的愛和被愛充溢時候，我們會感知到人生無限的美好;愛無聲，但舉手投足間，詮釋著師德的真正內(nèi)涵，它不是一條條枯燥的說教，他不是聲嘶力竭的呼號，他不是由埋怨抱怨構(gòu)建的心靈城堡，它是春風(fēng)化雨的滋潤，是用我們一生的精力履行的神圣諾言!

　　我有一個超級媽媽，她有個外號，叫氣象局，原因是：你根本就不需要知道第二天穿什么，她就幫你想好了，我的朋友小胖，我們兩個從小就會一起去上學(xué)，那個時候她已經(jīng)穿上了這個白色的t恤，而我已經(jīng)開始穿上一個棉襖，比她還要胖，她就站在那個樓道那等我的時候會說：“哎呀，你這是干啥呀，穿成這樣丟不丟人啊!”那我只能告訴她：“對不起，你還小，你不懂，世界上有一種冷，叫：你媽覺得你冷。”

　　這是我的媽媽，后來上了大學(xué)，大學(xué)同學(xué)給她送了一個外號，叫江湖奪命連環(huán)call，為什么?我想問問你們，你們多久會跟家里人聯(lián)系一次，一天一次可以嗎?你們能接受嗎?你在搖頭好吧，一天三次呢，那肯定不能。我媽媽曾經(jīng)打破過一天打9個電話的記錄。每個電話的內(nèi)容就是：你在哪兒呢?你吃飯了嗎?你回家了嗎?記得穿秋褲。

　　這就是她，但是，盡管這樣，我們的關(guān)系很和諧，從來沒有過特殊的矛盾。所以我的朋友就會說：“小溪你看你多幸福，家里有屋又有田，生活樂無邊。”對，說這話的是我的朋友小q，她從小跟她的爸爸就是武力對決，解決問題，一個女孩子哦，有一次巔峰對決的戰(zhàn)果就是：她的鼻梁骨里面還留著當(dāng)時的骨頭渣子。

　　我的另外一個朋友也會說：“小溪，你看你多好，媽媽每天還會給你送飯，都是皇家級別的待遇。”對，說這個話的是我的朋友小a，她跟她爸爸見面的次數(shù)：第一次還是短發(fā)，她第二次就已經(jīng)長發(fā)及腰了。最讓人覺得心酸的原因是，她爸爸送走她的時候還會特別客氣地說句：“那個，慢走啊。”

　　親爸。 對，我有一個好爸爸，特別的好，他崇尚富養(yǎng)女兒，怎么樣姑娘們，聽到這個特開心吧，富養(yǎng)意味著什么，我有一個大我九歲的姐姐，從小就開始學(xué)唱歌學(xué)跳舞，十二歲之前她已經(jīng)把全世界各地好像都走遍了。

　　然后他也是個特別好的丈夫。那個時候九十年代吧他就會主動地給我媽媽買一件兩千多塊錢的那個翻毛皮的大衣，特別時尚!到現(xiàn)在我的媽媽每天都還在說：“你看你爸多愛我。”

　　他也會很愛我，應(yīng)該，也許，大概，可能... ...原因是因為，在我三歲半的時候，我的爸爸因為是肺癌還是胃癌，我已經(jīng)記不清了，他就離開了，我就只能偷偷的把他的照片然后拿到廚房里偷偷地看，這個男人怎么回事，來了又走了，他人呢，是我做錯了什么嗎，你知不知道，你給我?guī)�來的這個缺失，是任我后天看多少書做多少努力都填補不了的。

　　所以每當(dāng)我的那些小伙伴們，他們問我：“你看怎么辦，我又跟我爸吵架了，他又是這樣，每天都煩，磨磨叨叨... ...”的時候，其實我心里特別想打斷他們，我特別想問：“哎，你能告訴我，跟爸爸吵架頂嘴是個什么樣的感覺嗎?”或者說，你能告訴我：“你放學(xué)有一天你放學(xué)，你突然發(fā)現(xiàn)那個高大的身影在那接你的身影，那個感覺是什么樣子的?”再或者你能不能給我描述一下：那雙大手拉著你，又是什么樣的感覺?實在不行實在不行你告訴我，叫一聲爸爸的感覺是什么?

　　我站在這，說一個我以前從來都不會在眾人面前說的話題，揭開我內(nèi)心的一個禁區(qū)給你們，并不是想告訴你們我有多慘，相反我一點也不慘，我只是想試圖去揭開你們心靈上的那層紗，想告訴你們，任我們的親人發(fā)生了什么他們做了什么，你依舊無法停止愛他的腳步，因為你發(fā)現(xiàn)，這種愛是本能，它超越生死。

　　其實生活有的時候，它特別用心良苦，如果它能的話，它一定會告訴你說：“嘿，寶貝兒，你知道嗎?我給你的所有的磨難、折磨，都是想在告訴你，你可以變的更好，要知道傷害你的從來都不是事情本身，而是你對事情的看法。”

　　盡管這個帥帥的男人離開了，但是，他其實依舊在，因為我媽媽每天的九個電話當(dāng)中有一半是在替他打的，就像我能夠接受媽媽這種肆無忌憚的愛一樣。我也要給她，她缺失的爸爸的愛。

　　朋友們，在這個世界上你要知道，也只有他們，是這個世界上唯一到現(xiàn)在還會對你說：“過道看著點兒車啊!”他也是這個世界上唯一一個還會對你時候：“記得吃飯喝水... ...”他也是這個世界上唯一覺得你穿秋褲漂亮的人。

　　這就是他們，歲月很長，然而我們能夠跟他們相處的時間太短，請你們?nèi)ダ斫馑�，最后我想去說覺察。光有愛還不夠，因為你必須覺察到他的創(chuàng)傷，他的那份痛，他的隱忍，他的敏感;請你包容他，原諒他，就像現(xiàn)在一樣我依舊感謝這個巨帥無比的男人，謝謝他來到我的生命里，謝謝他給我這份愛的力量，讓我可以傳遞給更多的人。

　　最后我想跟你分享每一次看到媽媽給我送完飯，離開的背影，我就想到龍應(yīng)臺《目送》當(dāng)中的那一句話：“所謂父子，母女一場，只不過意味著，你和他們的緣份就是今生今世不斷地在目送他的背影漸行漸遠。你站在小路的這一端，看著他逐漸消失在小路轉(zhuǎn)彎的地方，他用背影默默的告訴你：不必追。